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Published November 04, 2013, 09:41 PM

One man's internet marriage advice goes viral

Fargo, ND (WDAY TV) - In a world where the divorce rate is sky high, people seem to be starving for the secret to a successful marriage.

Fargo, ND (WDAY TV) - In a world where the divorce rate is sky high, people seem to be starving for the secret to a successful marriage.

And one young man might be on to something.

Two days ago, an article entitled "Marriage Isn't for You" hit the web, and it's gone viral.

As soon as I read this blog, I lost my breath, as did many other men and women across this country.

In the blog, a man who's been married only a year and a half pours his heart into a journal about how he's making his marriage work.

We asked you to weigh in, as well as two other experts on love.

"Starry-eyed love."

…Is what we'd all like to think it's like.

For Sandy Torgerson, that's what her marriage has been like from the very start.

Sandy Torgerson- Happily Married: "I think we were engaged six months or so; six to nine months after we met."

The long-time lover has been married to her sweet-heart for over 32 years.

Torgerson: "When they say the two shall become one, it's definitely true."

She said she knew when she met Brian, he was someone different; maybe even “the one.”

But 32 years of successful marriage doesn't exactly mean it's been easy.

Torgerson: "Someone told me a long time ago, that life is as hard as you want to make it."

According to the American Psychological Association, the biggest bumps in the road can be finances and parenting.

"It’s not all smooth sailing. There's a lot of ups and downs in marriages."

And when we told this Marriage Counselor about the latest viral blog giving advice on love, he warned us.

Marty Tallakson- Marriage Counselor: "If you're getting your marital advice from a blog, you're going to be in trouble."

Because while the author explains that marriage is selfless and more about making his spouse and her family happy, in the end, everyone is very different.

Tallakson: "We need to learn to love in a way that feels good to us and honors who we are."

Mrs. Torgerson agrees that marriage isn't just for you. It's for the family, for your kids and, of course, for your spouse, too.

Torgerson: "You feel for each other. You want to do for each other. You want to serve each other. It definitely is making the other person more happy than yourself."

You might have noticed Mr. Torgerson wasn't alongside Sandy. That's because he works late.

But we asked you what you thought about the article.

One comment from Liz Chandler reads: This is pretty powerful; how quickly the divorce rate would drop if everyone practiced this.

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