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Published December 14, 2012, 09:19 PM

How to talk to your children about the Connecticut school shooting

Fargo, ND (WDAY TV) -- School officials say if they haven't already, it's only a matter of time before elementary students across the country will hear about this tragedy. Counselors say what's important is how parents handle it.

Fargo, ND (WDAY TV) -- School officials say if they haven't already, it's only a matter of time before elementary students across the country will hear about this tragedy. Counselors say what's important is how parents handle it.

Counselors say it's more than a question of "if" parents should talk to children about the shooting, that's different from case to case...

but what do you say when a 6 year old has questions about it? One therapist told us there's a do and a big don't.

There are 20 parents out east who'd give anything for this moment,

picking up their child from school. The youngsters are extra giddy this afternoon with the weekend ahead, not knowing what happened halfway across the country, but their parents do.

Debbie Stene-Knuttila/picking up her grandchild: "I started to cry and I know it's out east but it just hit me because it's our kids."

Michelle Kommar: "think of the parents of those children and how devastating, dreadful and unimaginable that would be I can't wrap my mind around that."

Counselors say those feelings are normal for an adult, but children see it different. And if the topic comes up counselors say the worst thing you can do is push your anxiety and worries on to the child.

John Lyon/therapist: "As adults tend to do that we tend to over think things and go oh my god, oh my god and that's not where the kid is. If a child has questions answer the question."

Lyon says emphasize those odds of it happening to them and it's extremely rare.

However in the day and age we live in this forces school officials to review policy.

Students take part in lockdown drills, There's only one unlocked door during a school day, but is it enough?

Jeffrey Schatz/Fargo Schools Superintendent: "We're always looking at what can we do better? As with any scenario you have to look at what occurred and are we prepared for something like that?

Parents told us today they feel Fargo schools do plenty to protect their children, and they don't want it to go over board and make an elementary school feel like a prison.

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