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Published March 11, 2012, 07:43 PM

Hundreds of Military and their families learn how to overcome grief and pain

Fargo, ND (WDAY TV) -- Hundreds of military and their families gathered at the North Dakota Symposium for Families in Fargo. They found out how to overcome grief and pain from a speaker who knows this subject all too well.

Fargo, ND (WDAY TV) -- Hundreds of military and their families gathered at the North Dakota Symposium for Families in Fargo. They found out how to overcome grief and pain from a speaker who knows this subject all too well.

Trevor Hendrickson lost his father Kenneth nearly eight years ago. He was killed while serving in Iraq with the North Dakota Army National Guard.

Trevor: "The first three years it was horrible, lots and lots of crying. The grief cycle is very, there are up's and downs."

It wasn't until Hendrickson started reading books and joined a group called TAPS or Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors that he was able to let go of the grief and anger.

Trevor: "It takes a long time to get to where I am at."

Because of these things this resilient young man can now talk about his pain and what he does to overcome the bad days.

Trevor: "What are you going to do with that grief, you know there is kind of two ways, you can help let it build you into a stronger person or it can break you."

"His dad couldn't be prouder."

Davina French was his fathers commander in Iraq.

French: He rode with me everyday, we slept side by side, he was the navigator for the unit.

Because of the closeness between French and Hendrickson's father..he looks to her for guidance.

French: "There are some days I think that he uses me as his sounding board because I knew his dad so well, that what would my dad think?"

To this day Hendrickson still asks French to explain pictures to him..Like this one where his father was helping to guide his convoy through the desert.

French: "This was the day we were really lost, and yes I did stop the convoy and I kicked your dad out of the car and said you are going to figure out where we are."

As Hendrickson explains his journey fro grief to resiliency

Trevor: "The best tribute that I can pay to my father, is to become the best man that I can be that he taught me to become."

People have learned to live life to the fullest and make everyday a good one.

Each year, Hendrickson and French go to Washington D-C for a TAPS summit.

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