Social media discipline: Mom sells daughter’s Katy Perry tickets online
Fargo, ND (WDAY TV) - A Fargo teenager is learning a hard lesson after her mother sold her Katy Perry tickets through a Facebook garage sale group as punishment, but the mom's parenting techniques are drawing some criticism.
Cindy Bjerke's 18-year-old daughter had section 50 seats to the Katy Perry concert, but because of some so-called disrespectful behavior, the teen will have to miss out on the pop star.
Cindy Bjerke/ Fargo Mom: “I was not going to give her the tickets... I was not going to let her go to this concert with this behavior that she's been doing.”
But it was the way Bjerke sold the tickets that's coming under fire.
She posted a short ad to the Fargo-Moorhead Online Garage Sale Facebook page.
Bjerke: “I had a header that said, 'spoiled brat daughter doesn't deserve these tickets... For sale.'”
That header is drawing some criticism from other parents.
Elgie Eagleman/ Fargo Parent: “I think that's a personal issue where it should have been handled privately because on Facebook, everyone's going to see that.”
Jeff Schmidt/ West Fargo Parent: “I don't think I'd go as far as publicly chastising my child for the whole world to see.”
While some of the parents I talked to here in downtown Fargo think the tactic was a little too extreme, Bjerke says her post had more than 200 likes and plenty of supportive posts before the site's administrator removed it.
Bjerke: “Most of it has been overwhelming support, and I think that a lot of parents are like me, where they feel like they're being bullied on how they should parent their own children.”
The flurry of comments prompted the page's administrator to remove the post, saying it detracts from buying and selling.
Parenting experts caution parents to be wary of posting to social media, but say it can offer a valuable lesson.
Sue Quamme/ Cass County Extension Parent Resource Center: “Mostly discipline just means to teach, so to find a way that's really effective; that's going to teach your children a lesson.”
And Bjerke says while she never wanted to embarrass her daughter, she was simply taking what she saw as appropriate action.
Bjerke: “I think everybody is more scrutinized, and it doesn't matter what side you're on. It's always wrong to somebody.”
Bjerke says she won't give her daughter's name or describe what she did wrong.